Free to all students 17 and under

Have you been meaning to go see a U of L basketball game but haven't this season? Well, don't wait any longer as their last home game is Thursday January 25th starting with the Women's game at 6 with our own Amy Mazutinec and Men's game starting at 8:00 versus University of Calgary. All students 17 and under get in free. Come out and cheer!

United Conservative Caucus Internship Program

The United Conservative Caucus is now accepting applications for its 2018 Internship Program!

Who do interns work for:
Interns will be working in our Communications Department, Legislative Research, Leaders Office, and for MLAs.

What is the time frame for the internship:
Starting on April 30th ending August 17th. Note – we can be flexible on these dates as required.

How much do interns get paid?
$525 a week.

What is needed to apply for the United Conservative Party Caucus Internship:
All interns must be a registered student in a post-secondary institution, or have graduated from a registered post-secondary institution in the last year.

When are applications due?
February 12th

What does a typical summer entail for an intern:
Interns are expected to work 36.25 hours a week. After hours there are high profile guests who will provide insights into life in politics. There will be intensive training and a summer long group project.

Please fill out the online application form at the bottom of the attached website and be prepared to upload your resume and cover letter when prompted.

http://www.ucpcaucus.ca/internship2018/

 

Are You Preparing Kids for a World that Doesn’t Exist?

Is it really okay to hold kids accountable for their misbehavior… or is this an archaic concept that no longer applies to raising kids? We at Love and Love have always taught the same thing: Hope and pray for affordable mistakes, provide a strong and sincere dose of loving empathy, and let logical or natural consequences do the teaching.
 
We provide unconditional love, dignity, and opportunities to make small mistakes. That’s the “love” in Love and Logic. The “logic” develops inside the child’s heart and mind when they discover that quality of one’s choices largely determines the quality of one’s life.
 

Do choices matter?

I remember the first time I heard how horrible and downright mean it is to upset our children by providing consequences. I was speaking at a seminar in Salt Lake City.
 
By the way… if you’re a Salt Lake citizen, please don’t take any offense. I love your city.
 
A parent at the conference shared her confusion:
 

We caught our sixteen-year-old sending nude pictures of herself to her boyfriend. We’d been learning about Love and Logic, so we felt it important that we take her phone. We really felt that it made sense… but then her therapist told us that we were way off base.

Trying to understand the situation, I asked, “Tell me how you did it.”
 
Mom continued:
 

We were careful to remain calm and to do our best to use empathy. We just told her that we loved her and that we didn’t feel comfortable providing a phone when she was using it to do something inappropriate and dangerous.

I was confused, and asked, “So the therapist told you that you shouldn’t have done that?”
 
Mom replied:
 

The therapist told us that doing this was too upsetting to our daughter. He went on to tell us that Love and Logic isn’t effective because it upsets kids.

 “What do you think?” I asked.
 
Her answer:
 

I just don’t know how a person can raise a responsible child without having some accountability.

Over the past few years, a strangely popular “no-consequences” movement has developed among many. They seem to argue that if we just do a better job of loving kids and meeting their underlying emotional needs, there will be no need for consequences. They also suggest that using consequences… even reasonable ones delivered with great love… is a big no-no.
 
Have you heard this, as well?
 
There’s some truth in what they say. Yes! Loving kids, building trusting relationships, and meeting needs is essential… and it does tend to cut down on the need for consequences. The downside of their rather extreme position is that the world is a consequential place.
 

It’s pay now or pay later.

We can either help our kids learn that choices matter when they are young and the consequences are small, or we can allow the world to teach this lesson when they are older and the consequences are often tragic.

Are we going to prepare our kids for a world that doesn’t exist… or the real one?


Dr. Charles Fay

Stirling School Ski Day 2018

Our ski day has been scheduled for TUESDAY, JANUARY 30, 2018 at Westcastle.  We sent home a registration form with each family.  If you didn't receive your form, please click this link to download the sign up and waiver forms and this link for the information packet.

We hope to see many of our Stilrling School families enjoying this day!

Basketball Tournaments

We have added 3 tournament draws to our website "Athletics" section for your information. Firstly, our JV Boys Invitational Tournament is taking place here at the school Friday and Saturday.  Our Varsity Girl's basketball team is heading to Taber for the St. Mary's Highschool "Auroras Invitational Tournament", and lastly, our Grade 7 Boys will be at Spring Glen Jr. High for their tournament.  We hope to see many of our parents and community members out enjoying a weekend of ball!

Don’t Bother Mom When She’s on the Phone

“They’re driving me crazy! Every time I’m on the phone they start fighting with each other. If it’s not that, they are asking for things. I haven’t had an uninterrupted phone conversation for months. I don’t know what I’m going to do.”
 
Anna’s children had discovered that they were no longer the center of attention when she talked on the phone. So, they would hang on her, complain, bicker, or beg. She decided to do something about this by using a Love and Logic Training Session.
 
Anna called one of her friends and explained the problem: “Paula,” Anna said, “my kids are in need of some special training. They are driving me nuts when I get on the phone. Would you be willing to call me several times during the next few days? When they start going through their acts, I’ll put you on hold for a few minutes. I’ll pretend like it’s no big deal that we stop the conversation while I straighten out the kids. That way they are going to find out that inconveniencing me while I’m on the phone is a bad decision. Please call me tomorrow morning and we can have our first training session.”
 
“Oh, this sounds great!” answered Paula. “Maybe you can do the same thing for me.”
 
Anna started telling Paula about the Love and Logic Energy Drain technique: “When we are inconvenienced, the time and energy we lose has to be paid back by the kids. This is usually paid back by doing some of the parent’s work, like scrubbing toilets, washing windows, or pulling weeds.”
 
Paula called the next morning, and true to form, the kids started in on Anna. She very politely said, “Oh, Paula, I’m so sorry. Would you please hold? We are going to have a Love and Logic moment at our house.”
 
Anna put the phone down, calmly walked over to the kids and said in a stern voice, “I told you that bothering me while I’m on the phone is an Energy Drain. I’m going to have to do something about this. You can wait in your room until I finish.”
 
Anna’s kids paid her back for her Energy Drain by pulling weeds that afternoon. Now, if the kids forget and annoy Mom while she is on the phone, she turns to the kids and asks, “Are you sure you want to inconvenience me while I’m on the phone?” This is usually followed by a quick retreat by the kids.
 
The beauty of the “Energy Drain” technique is that it can be adapted to all types of new and different situations.
 
If my audio, Love and Logic Magic When Kids Drain Your Energy, is not in your personal library, order it today. If you don’t love it, I’ll buy it back.
 
Jim Fay

When Your Good Spouse has a Different Parenting Style

Last summer at our annual Love and Logic retreat, a woman approached me and shared a story I’ve heard countless times from parents (wives and husbands) from every walk of life:
 

My husband is a good man… but we go back and forth over how

to parent our kids. It’s causing major friction in our marriage, 

and I’m horribly worried about the kids.

 
With the tips listed below, many caring couples have strengthened their marriage and raised healthy, responsible kids:
 
Love your spouse for who they are… not who you want them to become.
 

Very few people change by being pressured, nagged, or criticized. Most find it safer to try new attitudes and behaviors when they feel securely loved and valued. When was the last time you told your spouse that you were head over heels in love with them?

 
Agree on some core values.
 

Many people disagree about specific parenting practices… but most seem to agree on core values. Sit with your spouse and identify five or so principles on which you can agree. Examples might include: (1) Kids need to feel loved unconditionally; (2) Kids need healthy limits; (3) Kids need to see their parents loving each other; (4) Kids need to help out around the house; (5) Kids need to experience the natural or logical consequences of their actions.

 
Agree that you’ll probably handle some things differently.
 

When the kids complain that your spouse handles things differently, respond by saying, “That’s because we are different. If you have a problem with what your mom (or dad) did, that’s between the two of you.”

 
Agree to always do whatever you can to make each other look good.
 

Even if you think your good spouse has done something unwise, support them in the eyes of the children. Discuss your disagreement when your kids are not there to hear it.

 
Agree to place your primary emphasis on the happiness of your marriage.
 

There are times in every marriage relationship when it seems tempting to side with the kids instead of one’s spouse. Wise husbands and wives avoid this trap! They understand that the best way to love their kids is to first love and respect each other.


Dr. Charles Fay

Strengthening Your Child’s Heart

Now that the holiday season is over, it might be a good time to reflect.
 
But what a great time… chock full of fun get-togethers, a cornucopia of carbohydrates and, for many of us, some exciting family drama. It’s a time of joy, a time of stress, a time of running to and fro and a time many kids experience the excitement of being given-to.
 
I like being given-to. It’s great. I know very few people who don’t enjoy receiving. The weird thing, however, is that the rush of getting stuff tends to wear off quickly. Perhaps you’ve noticed this with your kids. Maybe you’ve even noticed this with yourself.
 
Being on the other end… that is giving to others… also feels good. Generosity warms the giver’s heart and also builds heart muscle. We all want kids with strong hearts, built on the steady exercise regime of giving.
 
Pumping weights, jogging, swimming and other forms of exercise are not much fun when done for the first time. They make us dizzy, cause sweat to drain from our pores and create a major soreness hangover the next day. Only when our muscles begin to strengthen do we start to enjoy these activities. Once in the habit, they become enjoyable.
 
The same goes for being a giver. Many kids need a large amount of gentle, yet firm, prodding to begin the process of cardiac strengthening. They also need someone to show them how it’s done.
 
This time of year is a great time to place an exclamation point on the importance of continued generosity. The holidays have shown kids what it looks like. Now we can strongly, yet gently, encourage them to do the same: 

•  Encourage them to donate some of their older toys to charity.

•  Suggest that they buy a less fortunate child something brand new.

•  Expect them to give their grandparents, other relatives or neighbors the gift of a shoveled sidewalk, a dusted home, a spic and span garage, etc. Doing for others is extremely heart healthy.

•  Volunteer as a family to feed the hungry.

•  Show them how to do all of these things with a joyful attitude.

All in all, the best thing we can give our kids is a giver attitude. While it takes plenty of reps, it will eventually build them into people with strong and loving hearts.

Dr. Charles Fay
 
 

Christmas Fundraiser

Stirling School students and staff showed their generosity and Christmas spirit by making cash donations during the last week of school.  $435.70 was raised and will be donated to a local charity. 

Thank you to all who made this donation possible!  

Keeping the Holidays Sane for Your Kids

Little ones thrive on routine and structure, the two things that tend to go by the wayside when the holidays arrive and families are running to and fro, gathering gifts, visiting relatives, and connecting with friends. Listed below are some tips for keeping things sane during this busy time of the year:
 
Set limits with family and friends.
 
Some people fear setting limits with their parents, in-laws, other family members and friends because they worry about upsetting them. The only people who get upset by loving limits are people who really need them!
 
Don't be afraid to say things like, “We can’t wait to see you. We will need to leave by six so that we can get the kids in bed by a reasonable hour.”
 
Continue to set limits with your kids.
 
Sometimes we avoid setting limits with our children at family get-togethers because we want to keep the peace or avoid meltdowns. Ironically, this leads to far more fits and far less harmony.
 
Plan ahead and provide a quiet spot for recovery.
 
Particularly with small children, ask family and friends, “Is there a quiet place where my little one can go for some recovery time if they start to test limits or get overstimulated?”
 
I vividly remember being sent to my grandparents’ bedroom as a result of being unruly during a Christmas meal. I also remember lying on their bed, screaming, punching their pillows, and falling fast asleep. I was worn out!
 
What if you don’t think your kids will go to recovery? Learn practical solutions in our newly revised book, Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood.
 
Don’t feel guilty about placing yourself in recovery.
 
I love my family… but I still find it helpful to give myself some brief “bathroom time” so that I can regain the ability to exercise self-control.
 
Remember that this too shall pass.
 
Despite the best laid plans, sometimes the wheels come off and things get ugly. At these times, it’s often comforting to remember that every situation… bad and even good… is merely temporary.
 
Thanks for reading! Our goal is to help as many families as possible. If this is a benefit, forward it to a friend.
 
Dr. Charles Fay

Journalist for a Day

Another NEW opportunity for your students to explore career options!

Career Transitions, in partnership with Global Lethbridge, are excited to introduce a contest: “Journalist for a Day”.

Please see the attached poster for details, plus check out additional information on our website (Journalist for a Day link)

We appreciate your help in spreading the word about this fun, new opportunity – but don’t delay, deadline is January 26, 2018!

Questions? Please direct questions to Shauna Gruninger (shauna.gruninger@lethsd.ab.ca).

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Quiet Times: The Greatest Holiday Gift

What memories do you treasure from the holidays of your youth?
 
Here I sit trying to remember the cool gifts I received and the spectacularly entertaining things we did as a family. I don’t remember much about the stuff… or the entertainment. I do remember the people.
 
I vividly remember Christmas when I was four. Grandma Marie was there. By the following year, cancer had taken her away. How thankful I am that we had time… sweet time where we were quiet and still and just enjoyed being together. Isn’t it sad that it sometimes requires a great illness for us to still ourselves and truly connect with the people we love?
 

Be with the people you love… not just under the same roof.

The greatest holiday gifts we can give our kids are limits… mostly limits on ourselves and the other adults in our lives.
 
The limits we set with ourselves mostly involve curbing the natural inclination to do the impossible… make the holidays a perfect experience for everyone. We all know what happens when we attempt to make everyone happy.
 
The limits we set with the other adults in our lives involve taking good care of ourselves and our kids. Caution! Some of these may cause severe shock:
 

We can’t wait to see you guys. We’ll need to leave by six so we can spend some quiet time with the kids before bedtime.
 

We love you and want to spend time with you. We are trying to help the kids be more relaxed and rested, so we’ll need to do this on another day.

We want to spend relaxed time with everyone, so we’ll be ordering pizza.

Thanks for reading! Our goal is to help as many families as possible. If this is a benefit, forward it to a friend.
 
Dr. Charles Fay
 

Congratulations

Congratulations to the Senior Varsity Girls for winning the Girls' side of the Picture Butte "Rule the Court" Tournament. After a hard fought game versus host Picture Butte, the girls pulled together in the fourth quarter to win the championship game 83-70. Also congratulations to the Senior Varsity Boys for beating St. Mary's, Taber in over time 84-83, to receive the 3rd place in the boys' side of "Rule the Court" tournament in Picture Butte. The team battled back after being down by 21 points going into the fourth quarter. Congratulations to all athletes and coaches.

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